Saturday, July 25, 2009

again...

I called Jess last night to check in just because I haven't spoken with her since last week.
She called me at 3:00 this afternoon to let me know she (and Amanda because they are now best buds) were up to visit my parents and would she be able to come by to drop off Avery's birthday present... UGH! Thankfully, we were not home because I HATE them just dropping by expecting me and my pathetic life to revolve around their wishes. I did tell her that I wished she had told me she was coming because I would have liked to have been included in her little family reunion but she said it was last minute blah blah blah... Yeah, right! Calls me at 3:00 when she's already here and Amanda is with her so she had to drive at least 1.5hrs to get to Jess and another 1.5 hours up here. I'm sure it was all arranged before this morning but whatever. So I tell her that I am planning a little party in August and she says that her next 3 weekends are booked... hmmm seems that she's making plans with somebody that aren't last minute! Jess, Amanda, my parents... none of them cared to let me in on their plan and speaking of my parents- they can't take 5 minutes to spend with me but can once again drop everything when my sisters come for a "last minute" visit... I am so very sick of meaning nothing, having nothing to offer, and being treated this way by everyone in my life. I must really suck. Wish I wasn't such an insignificant waste of air. Thank God for my babies and Matt because I swear, other than them, I could vanish into thin air and not a soul would notice. Seriously, I can't take much more of this.

Monday, July 13, 2009

Birthday dilema

After talking with several friends and a professional I decided not to invite family to Avery's birthday party this year. By "family" I mean my family. My family hasn't had the best attendace at my kids' birthday parties. My sisters and parents showed for Eva's first birthday but only Jess (the eldest of my two younger sisters) came to her second party and she was the only one who showed up for Avery's first birthday too. Amanda said she was sick for Eva's 2nd birthday but then never bothered to visit later or acknowledge her birthday in any way. When Avery turned a year Amanda called me after attending a wedding that same morning to tell me she was sick. I invited her to come the following day to the "friend party" but she never showed. When I called my Grandmother later in week my Aunt told me that Amanda was on the Cape with her boyfriend. Hmmm.



Anyway, Avery's birthday is next week. Amanda, in her usual fasion, just called me to say she's visiting my parents and would I mind if she came over for a bit- without any warning. You know just drop in... (this after she came up several dozen times in a row and didn't bother to call me or try to see my kids- the only reason she's calling now is that I emailed her after her last visit and told her I would like to see her and asked that she let me know BEFORE HAND next time she was here). Just happens that we're all sick, all five of us! Nasty head cold. I told her we're not the best company and she asked about Avery's birthday... I tell her I'm that basically not having a family party because nobody ever shows anyway. Her response "That's not fair, I was at a wedding".

I feel like saying: "BULLSHIT! You called me after the wedding (during or just before Avery's party) to let me know you weren't feeling well and I invited you to the party we were having the very next day and you said you'd come if you were feeling better. Funny because I called Aunt Nancy the next day and she told me you were visiting them on the Cape with your boyfriend and feeling just fine but you never bothered to call me and lie that day about being sick."

I didn't bother responding... waste of energy trying to reaon with people who lie and then a year later try to use the same lie again. It didn't work the first time, why does she think I'll fall for it now?

Update: Now she's posted on my FB page practically pleading to come to his party and making me look like an ass because I'm not inviting her. I emailed her to let her know we decided at the last minute (which we did- really, we called Matt's father and sisters last night) to get together on Sunday and she could come if she wants to but I understand that it's last minute.

I wish people would either smarten up or just leave me alone!

Friday, July 3, 2009

Here a fish there a fish...

Today we met up with my sister Jess, her husband, Dave, and their daughter, Sarah at the NE Aquarium. The kiddos were so excited about the fish and turtles. Eva did warn Avery that the shark was going to bite him... typical big sister! Has to ruin the experience for the little guy by scaring him. Actually I think she was aiming to get him to choose to stay behind so she could have us all to herself!

Anyway, the aquarium was a hit. We purchased a season (year long) pass for the Fam-Damily which was, if you ask me, worth it even if we never make it back there since we were able to skip on ahead of the mile long line (I'm exaggerating a teeny bit) and get right to the penguins.

Aahh the penguins! Last year when we went they were very happy little birds. Happy in this case meaning that they were happily "giving one another piggy back rides". Penguin sex is only interesting when you have a bunch of little kiddos looking about all confused and asking "why is that penguin doing that to the other one"? My very conservative sister even took video. (I love remembering this because it truly does show her humorous side, which I love!) I have to admit I was a bit relieved that they were not as "happy" this visit since I could only imagine what conclusions Eva may come to and how those conclusions may manifest in public places. For example: She's very upset, shall we call it, that Rylan and Avery have a penis and she does not. This typically sounds something like this in public "Why does Rylan have a penis with Avery like Daddy does and I don't? I want a penis. I don't want a 'gina'. I don't want one like Mommy." (as it happened today in the crowded ladies room at the Aquarium).

After the Aquarium we took a stroll to Fanuil Hall for some "Chowda"... Very crowded, very expensive, very sticky! BUT there are pigeons and that was a major attraction for Eva so I guess it was worth it. Maybe I shouldn't have bothered with the Aquarium. Next time I'll bring her to a McDonald's parking lot and buy her a bag of fries to attract the pigeons with.. :)

Ended our Boston portion of the trip with a stop in the park at the water fountain spray area where Avery was surprised by water shooting him in the butt and later in the face. Poor guy was in the wrong place at the right time twice! The crowd (and I) laughed both times while Matt said "it's not funny" (HELL YES IT WAS)! I guess I can kiss the mommy of the year award goodbye again... oh well! The kids were soaked so we stripped them naked (well down to diaper and undies- I'd already lost the award so who cares) right there in the park, loaded them into the stroller, and dressed them in the parking garage before heading to Kimball Farm for dinner and icecream. Lesson learned: if you "punch out" at the parking garage kiosk but don't exit the garage within 15 minutes (not enough time to change, dress, and load 3 small children, their belongings, stroller, ourselves, etc..) you are welcomed with an additional $12 fee at the gate! $#%^@ Boston Parking! UGH!

Fantastic weather today! I think it was the 5th sunnyish day in almost 30 days. Not too hot and a bit of a breeze made it perfect for us! Even this rain loving mommy was happy to see the sun!